Sunday, August 2, 2009

I just gave up.?

I took a dog on a trial basis and it didnt work out,so I had to give him back to the shelter. I feel sooo bad, I am crying and all that, I just feel so awful for putting him back in the situation I thought I could save him from. I feel soo awful please help me. I want him back I have to restrain myself from going to get him bakc. Please help.
Answers:
Dont feel bad hun, you did the right thing...not all dogs are meant to be w all people..firstly being as he is a wolf mix chances are he will need to be placed in a home where he is the only dog as wolf mixes tend to be a bit more aggressive.he's better off in the no kill shelter where they can find him a more suitable match. I know it hurts now but in the long run it is for the best.you cant save em all hunny %26 no matter how much we try youjust cant. But someone else will, rest assured. Its better to have taken him back than to have had him hurt or possibly kill your other dog dont you think?? BEst of luck hunny! 鈾?
You must remember that these dogs may be very difficult to handle. Some may be easy to care for, but not everybody can take care of these dogs. If you know you are unable to rescue, then maybe work on the situation and try again later. But remember to do what is best for the dog.
If it didn't work out it is better to put him back into the shelter ( I do hope you brought him to a no kill shelter) and find a better match. Otherwise the dog would not get the love and attention it needs, finding the right home is just as important as finding a home for the dog.
what didn't work out? maybe you should've asked for advice on here before you gave him back. people on here can be very helpful. think to yourself what couldnt work:

was it his behaviour?
your living conditions?

if you gave him up due to behavioural reasons, just remember, there is no such thing as a bad dog, just a bad owner.

if you had to give him up because the landlord said so, then there is nothing else you can do unless you move

hopefully, you can get your dog back and it wont get put down within the next week
First of all, ask your self why you gave him back.
If it was because you felt it was the best choice for him and you weren't the best owner for him, then give yourself a pat on the back and don't feel bad about that.
If it was fixable issues and you just gave up, then you naturally will feel guilty. In that case, maybe do a little research about how to fix those issues and whether or not you are willing to do what is necessary to fix it. If you are not willing, then you shouldn't get the dog back as it will not ever work out and he will be better off somewhere else. If you are willing to do the work, maybe you should give it another shot.
dont feel bad, we took two rescue dogs and had to take one back for his own wellbeing. He had been badly abused by a male and couldnt relax in the home when my husband was around. He was found a new home in a female enviroment and doing well. You dont know how they will react till you get them home. Dont let it put you off i have two rescues now and they are a joy
Well just know that there are more nice people like you out there. It just wasn't the right situation. Have peace of mind that he's warm and has meals to eat and not a stray in danger anymore. :)
I gave a pet back after two days trial... and yes- I cried like a baby. I took another one a few months later- a chihuahua and kept her for good. I'm sure the bigger dog found another pet lover- someone who is his ideal master.
You have to stop blaming yourself, because I'm sure you had good reasons for giving him back to the shelter. Are you like this with other things, too? I mean not being able to move on... without self blame etc.
don't think about the dog . focus on your own collie. or else you'll be the one to suffer when both dogs fight with each other. divert your attention from feeling sorry for the other dog. and you know that you need not to worry since it's in a safe place and it's well-taken care of.
What did not work out?
Part of me just wanna scream at you for being so STUPID.
Whats the use of crying and why feel awful?
You've made a decision and thats that.
So why cry now, why feel guilty?
And what help do you need? cos you obviously dont need any since you already made a decision.
If you just wanted us to agree with you that you had made a correct choice.
Then sorry.. you cant find it here.
You had made a bad choice from the start.

In the first place you should have found out more about getting a dog from the shelter before doing anything.
You should be prepared that dogs from shelter are not easy to handle and they not neccessary will be able to get along with your other pets.
If you have pets in your house, you should've thought of how to house them separately first.
Natural Enemies? How did you know?
All dogs do not like other dogs to step in their terrortories especially dogs who have live in your house for at least 1-2 years.
You should be prepared for that if you wanted to try adopt one from shelter or even get a new pup from the pet shop.
If you think you cant do it... then dont even try.
Because do you know how the poor dog feels right now?

And you can always seek help from trainer to train this dog from shelter or seek advice from them on how to both of them get along well.
There is no such thing as a bad dog.
If you dont coach him and train him... who else could he depend on?

I hope you will always remember this before you decided to get another dog again.
Be it a sheltered one or a petshop bought.
Lets say this time you bought a new one from the petshop...
Your current pet barks at him and even tried to fight with the baby..
Do you send the new pup to shelter?
Hope you think before you act.
If he's at a no kill shelter then why are you so upset! Someone else will adopt him or foster him! He's safe and can't hurt any dogs there!
Don't feel bad but you should of done research on here people can be real nice and help alot on here you should of looked up his breed found out ways to see if there was a way to make it stop although it probably is his natural instincts but don't feel bad someone else will foster him give him a good home and he will probably be happy there you did what was best for your other dog and him.now he cant get hurt or hurt any other dogs good luck.
You didn't do anything wrong. He will be adopted by someone and be happy for the rest of his life. If he was having to fight at your house he wouldn't have been happy.

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